Where Is Ross?

Some of you will have noticed that my posting about the Cross House has significantly diminished of late.

That is because not much has been happening of late. Save the big push to get a working shower installed, and The Other Justin installing a new maple kitchen floor, it has all been…quiet.

The is the result of my having very low energy for several months now. I attribute this to three factors:

 

ONE 

Getting a blood clot really threw me. While my leg has felt totally normal now for about a month, I am still taking blood thinner medicine, and will be doing so for about two more months, at least.

My low energy and the blood clot happened about the same time. Is the medicine the cause?

I have been taking days off from the house. Much more than ever previously. Since 2014, I have worked on the house six days a week, at least, and normally seven. The last few months? Five days a week. Sometimes only four.

There have also been days, of late, when I drive all the way to the house, and just wander around. While there are always 5,793 things to do on any given day, I just wander, aimlessly. After about a half hour I get back into the car and drive home. Madness!

During the last week I managed to mow most of the lawn (it was scandalously shaggy), vacuum the basement (scandalously not pristine), and got one wall in the new shower grouted. Just one wall. I had planned to do all three. It is not hard. But one wall was it. I am pretty sure though that I will get the other two done by Monday.

I have also been scandalously lax in ordering stuff. I still have not ordered the soapstone sink and have not been able to focus on the final few details to confirm the order. I had to cancel the order for the blue kitchen island cabinets (long story) and just cannot focus on re-ordering the cabinets.

In short?

Sigh.

 

TWO

Limpy.

Yea, you are thinking: What does Limpy have to do with Ross not working on the big house?

I have been giving this a lot of thought and find it hard to explain.

Limpy does not consume a lot of my time. Rather, he…well…consumes a lot of my…ahhh…life force. I feel that…somehow…I have attached an electrical cord from my inner generator directly to Limpy, and am transferring life-nourishing energy to him. I am highly aware of this even though, yes, I know this makes no sense. Yet, this is my best explanation.

In short: I feel drained by Limpy. And am happy to be drained as such. I suspect that people who have been caregivers to sick family members will know just what I am talking about. While being a caregiver can consume a lot of time and energy, there is much more going on. It is like your own life force gets tapped out.

I think.

 

THREE

I am on the board of a non-profit. And this has taken a toll on my soul these past two months. Anybody who has ever been on the board of a non-profit will know what I mean.

Recently though, and after twenty years of effort on my part, something fabulous because a reality.

Twenty. Years. Of. Effort.

And the joy I expected to feel? A joy so great that it would nourish my very soul with enough energy to light a small city? This…sooooooooo did not happen. Rather, I felt sucker-punched by the board. And I did not see this coming.

In short…I have been reminded of the old saying: No good deed goes unpunished.

This has profoundly drained me. More so than the medicine I am taking and Limpy.

Being abused pulverizes a person. Writing these words has made my eyes fill with tears. I grew up with abuse, intensely so, and the last few months have been like reliving a very grim childhood.

Ross sad.

 

OH, AND…

Things happen when Justin is available. But, he has not been available since just before Cody arrived. I think he will return to the house later in the month.

I hope.

 

SUMMATION

I am not really concerned about this hiatus. I certainly deserve and could use a break from the endless work on the house.

Regarding my business, it is doing well, and lights that sell are getting restored and shipped on time. Thank goodness. But, I have almost no energy to get new lights listed. This has been a problem since buying the big house, but in May I got two lights listed. Two. I used to get thirty lights listed every month. In March, I got six lights listed. Not great, but way better than two! And this month? Zero so far.

Sigh.

Having such low energy should not prove a problem in the short term. What, though, if I still feel like this in six months? The thought scares me.

 

55 Comments

  1. ColleenYukon on June 11, 2021 at 12:22 am

    Ross, I am happy to hear that you are resting. I wish that the emotional strain you are feeling will also heal. When I was on ‘covidcation’ from my job for almost a year I also paradoxically lacked energy – it seems that not having as much to do signalled my subconscious to release any bits of childhood trauma that were still lurking. So I unexpectedly ended up spending my energy on healing (and, not surprisingly, feeling down). Perhaps this is what is happening to you.

    in any event, rereading your blog has helped me over the past year. Thank you for sharing bits of your journey with the house. And the kittehs. 🙂

    • Ross on June 11, 2021 at 10:15 pm

      Thanks, Colleen!

  2. john feuchtenberger on June 11, 2021 at 12:50 am

    I have been constantly amazed at your pace of work–in your business, your wonderful blog, and the near-manic “baby steps” incessant accomplishments at the Cross House.( Baby steps? Hah! Many would call it, with more accuracy, “unremitting toil”).

    Severe health concerns, for yourself and your familiar Limpy, demand energy you’re not accustomed to spending except as you previously intentionally directed it. I suggest your “hiatus” is Nature’s way of slowing you down to husband your forces and regather your strength.

    Similar personal circumstances keep me humming to myself “I’m Still Here!” I recommend it! Listen to 85 year-old Elaine Stritch , singing to the youthful Obamas: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-dvZLTBh9jw

    • Ross on June 11, 2021 at 10:14 pm

      Thank you, John! And thanks for the Elaine fix!

  3. mlaiuppa on June 11, 2021 at 1:08 am

    I know it is hard to let go but if your non-profit board is giving you grief, let it go. You’ve given 20 years (and found that replacement light shade and had that sign restored?) so you have done more than your part. You don’t owe them anything and certainly do not have to consent to be abused. Withdraw and let others take over.

    I had many of the symptoms you describe about 20 years ago. I was not on blood thinners but I was put on cholesterol medication. Statins. Specifically Simvastatin. So yes, the medication could be sapping your energy. I simply stopped taking it as it wasn’t lowering my cholesterol that much but in the 10 years that I took it I slowly gained about 60 lbs. Still haven’t been able to lose it. It took my that long to figure out it was the statins that were doing it. I as tested for a lot of other things and the doctors couldn’t find anything wrong and mostly didn’t believe me. But my energy was much better within a few weeks of stopping the meds. I’m not as lethargic. I’m still not back to my old levels but then I’m also a senior on medicare now so I can’t work like I could when I was in my 30s. Or 40s for that matter. So yes, it could be the blood thinners or something else. It couldn’t hurt to mention it to your doctor the next time you check in. It could be something else and the onset is just a coincidence.

    For now, taking care of Limpy is certainly work enough for you. Putting your business before everything except Limpy is certainly justified. You have to eat and you have other mouths to feed. Plus there is the house.

    After the marathon work you have done on the house, you are certainly entitled to a hiatus. Better to step back, relax and rejuvenate and come back energized than to push through and experience plodding rather than joy in your endeavor.

    Relax. Hug Limpy. Get well. Recharge the batteries and come back to the house when you are chomping at the bit with enthusiasm. There is no guilt in that. You are #1 and if you don’t look out for #1, no one else is. (I learned this the hard way.)

    • Ross on June 11, 2021 at 10:13 pm

      Thank you, mlaiuppa. BIG hug!

  4. Ginger on June 11, 2021 at 7:08 am

    Reading your post was like having a flashback and a flash current. I feel you 100%. bub. 100%. Glad you’re letting your body heal and are there for Limpy to heal. Coincidence on the timing? Something to think about. :).
    ::
    Sorry to hear about the charity board….don’t ever feel guilty if you set a boundary, they blow threw it and you tell them to (insert suggestion here). I did it, it was really hard, it was totally worth it. Boundaries save you & your sanity, teach other people how to behave and actually help them be better in the end.
    ::
    Keep up the good work, Ross!

    • Ross on June 11, 2021 at 10:11 pm

      Thank you, Ginger!

  5. Blair Benjamin Carmichael on June 11, 2021 at 7:12 am

    Ross, this is concerning.

    Have you been tested for COVID?

    You are describing common symptoms of infection.

    Have you had one of the vaccines?

    If you have, then these side effects need to be brought up with your Doctor.

    This also could be Pandemic depression syndrome where individuals do not contract COVID, but present with symptoms, like brain fog, fatigue, and social withdrawal.

    Take care and get plenty of fluids and exercise and you should start feeling like your old self again.

    • Ross on June 11, 2021 at 10:10 pm

      Blair!

      I’ve not been tested for Covid, and do not have Covid symptoms.

      I’m fully vaccinated.

      What I’m experiencing is a normal response to the three situations I detailed:

      1) Being on blood thinner can cause reduced energy.
      2) Handing over part of my life force to Limpy will reduce my energy. I’m happy to do so.
      3) Being abused will reduce a person’s energy.

  6. Jim on June 11, 2021 at 7:56 am

    My friend,

    Please take care of yourself. It sounds like Limpy and the house are the two things keeping your self worth up. It’s interesting that your sense of being drained is commiserate with day to day contact with other people (Justin in particular). If you are self-medicating, please consider a break because that might also be a cause of your doldrums.

    As you can see from the other comments, you are loved and we are here for you.

    • Ross on June 11, 2021 at 10:05 pm

      Hi, Jim!

      My sense of self-worth has not been impacted. Whew!

      And my feeling drained is specific to the three reasons outlined. I think of this as a triple-whammy!

  7. Denise Simon on June 11, 2021 at 8:00 am

    I empathize with and understand all to well what you are experiencing. But with determination and sometimes forced positivity, you will come out of this to see better and wonderful days. Blessings and hugs to you Ross. I am rooting for you.

    • Ross on June 11, 2021 at 10:02 pm

      Thank you, Denise! I gladly embrace your roots!

  8. Beth H. on June 11, 2021 at 8:15 am

    I have little to add that others haven’t said yet… but I (as unconfrontational and downright chicken as I am) would like to pummel that non-profit board on your behalf. Let me at ’em! (It’s the thought that counts, right?)

    • Ross on June 11, 2021 at 10:01 pm

      A most excellent thought, Beth!

  9. David F. on June 11, 2021 at 9:14 am

    Ross tired? Rest, Ross. You deserve it. We all need to recharge.

    Limpy? Hugs all around.

    Nonprofit board? Fuck ’em.

    • Ross on June 11, 2021 at 10:01 pm

      You made me laugh, David!

    • LS on June 12, 2021 at 12:22 am

      Ross,

      I am not a doctor. So I will not diagnose you. I have noticed the reduce posts, and hoped that you are okay.

      I hear what you are saying about the 3 current whammy blows.

      I can relate to your situation and, as a caregiver, the drain you describe, yeah….feeling that. But though it is draining, no place else I would choose to be. Though it is overwhelming sometimes, the warm the good moments give are worth it all.

      2020 sucked in a lot of ways for me, but was also great in so many ways. I get what others have replied with about depression, and the social withdrawal; I definitely get that, feeling it. However, no one knows you like you. You know how you are feeling.

      Hopefully Limpy will heal and be able to live out his final beautiful days at Casa De Ross.

      Your suspicions on the meds are probably correct. I agree with David F.; non-profit, Fuck ’em (though in the Frankly my dear, I don’t give a damn, way.)

      Be well Ross, you are the only blog I read, and it has been great reading your adventures. I read from the beginning to date all sections of your blog. You have given weeks and weeks worth of interesting, fun, thoughtful commentary on so many topics.

      I have researched things after reading your blog to learn more about different issues. I have been inspired to try or start different house projects or finally complete half-finished ones. So, thank you for sharing your journey.

      I am not much of a cat person, I am a dog person, and I get the animal attachment and care. Our dog was very very sick just over a year ago (brain infection) and we think he has an autoimmune disorder. Yeah, $$$$$$$$$. We nearly lost him, going to work while he was sick was horrible. I didn’t want to leave him, and was checking the cameras while I was gone, even though he was never alone. And I spent many nights sleeping on the floor next to him, it’s what he needed and what I needed. ❤ (He is doing well now; still has some lingering issues.)

      I volunteered to a non-profit for about 3 years on top of a 50+ work week, kids, husband, etc. It was a lot of work and, in the end, I felt used, abused, and taken advantage of in multiple ways. It was a crappy feeling. I felt like I wasted time and energy on top of feeling betrayed.

      Be well, Ross, I hope all situations improve in due time.

      Take care.

  10. EJordal on June 11, 2021 at 11:03 am

    You’ve worked so hard for so long and you have very good reasons to be drained. I’m glad that you’re resting up– You deserve it! I hope that you feel better soon, but regardless, your friends and your fans will stick with you.

    • Ross on June 11, 2021 at 10:00 pm

      Thank you, EJordal.

      I have worked hard for a long time on the house, but my feeling drained is specific to the three situations I listed.

  11. Pam on June 11, 2021 at 11:40 am

    Ross, first I want to give you a virtual hug. You are important to so many people and we wait and hope for your posts.

    I worked in retail at for profits and non-profits. Working for other people in retail and many other fields leaves little room for a personal life because one is focused all day every day on what somebody else wants and sometimes conflicting wants.

    I would just like to say that you are your own non-profit right now Ross (I am really projecting here). I would find it helpful if I were in your position to write down my mission and my goals. I would write down a list of what there is to do in the house on a rainy/snowy day or a nice clear day. If there are 8,000 things to do, write out the most necessary and the time needed to get them done. I would then post the lists in the house and start crossing off when you accomplish them.

    Maybe you are doing this because in your summaries you have a good grasp of what has been done and not. This works for me because I can drift to one thing and then the next. I opened several stores and we always operated from a book of plans and floor plans. Even now when I do a needlework project I make a book of my plans.

    Please take care of yourself in whatever way works for you.

    • Ross on June 11, 2021 at 9:59 pm

      Hi, Pam!

      I have a Move In List for this year, and have been happily ticking off items on the list as they get done.

      Getting a shower in the house was a big thing. Soon, the cat fence will resume.

      A huge curve ball has been Cody moving into the carriage house late in the year, but with Justin’s help this should be doable, and should not impact my moving into the Cross House at the end of the year.

  12. Wenda on June 11, 2021 at 1:30 pm

    Ross, thank you for sharing. Please know that there are so many, many of us out here that consider you a hero! Not in a way that sets expectations, but in a way that says, “ that’s one of the good guys who I like spending time with!” There are always cycles in life, right? I agree with other commenters, and believe that sometimes we are too enmeshed in a situation to see to the other side. But it will come. Hugs!

    • Ross on June 11, 2021 at 9:52 pm

      Thank you, Wenda!

  13. Dan Goodall-Williams on June 11, 2021 at 1:49 pm

    Ross, I think possibly you are just burned out. You need time to rest, regroup. Just my 2 cents. Hang in there.

    • Ross on June 11, 2021 at 9:52 pm

      Hi, Dan.

      No, it’s not a burn out. As mentioned, I’ve bene hit with a triple-whammy.

      But this, too, shall pass.

  14. Linda A. on June 11, 2021 at 2:11 pm

    Ross.

    I think you are depressed.

    It will make you tired, apathetic….sad.

    Me too.

    My all time best cat ever, Master Chief or Bubba as I called him, had a sudden catastrophic health issue and within 2 hours yesterday I had to make the HORRIBLE decision to buy him a one-way ticket to Florida. He had been my best buddy for 16 years and the problem was SO unexpected.

    So what does that have to do with my concern for you?

    Well the vet thinks Bubba was in congestive heart failure and threw a clot to his femoral arteries. Sudden paralysis in both hind legs…pain….and, well it was, a horrible day.

    SO! Maybe go see a doctor for your lethargy and melancholy. Maybe it is only what you think that is causing the blues.

    BUT! A sudden, unexpected health issue sometimes besides aggravating us by keeping us down, is also very scary!!

    You did need a break. I wish I could run over and drink wine with you. I need a fun night too.

    You will get your bounce back. But it may take a little time and a little medication. I am a big advocate for meds when you need ’em. Maybe not forever. Just to get you feeling like Ross again.

    Give Limpy a kiss from me. I miss my Bubba.

    • Ross on June 11, 2021 at 9:50 pm

      Oh, Linda!

      What a shock and horror your must have experienced yesterday. My heart goes out to you, and I wrap you, from a distance, in my arms. I will have some wine later, and will lift a glass to Bubba. And to you.

      I have experienced depression and that is not what is happening now. I have been hit with three back-to-back situations, which has left me feeling drained. These situations will pass.

      Much love, Ross

  15. Kerri on June 11, 2021 at 4:08 pm

    Everyone has made good points. I did notice that you weren’t posting as much. I thought it probably was because there wasn’t much happening, but was a little concerned that it had something to do with your leg. I’m so relieved that your leg is doing better, but I’m sorry to hear you’ve been feeling sad.

    A lack of energy and focus can be symptoms of depression, but it sounds like your lack of energy came first. It could be the medication or it could just be a natural consequence of your body fighting back from your illness.

    Hopefully, once you’ve fully recovered, your energy will bounce back too. As for feeling sad, sometimes a change of scenery can give you a fresh perspective. I know it’s easy for me to say, but try not to dwell on the non-profit board and instead concentrate on what’s positive. Your business is doing well, and, most importantly, your leg is getting better! That’s what’s important, not whatever nonsense the board is saying or doing.

    • Ross on June 11, 2021 at 9:44 pm

      Hi, Kerri!

      It helps that I’ve been able to identify the three issues impacting my energy. Luckily, each is not a permanent condition!

  16. Laurie L Weber on June 11, 2021 at 5:04 pm

    OK, I’m done crying now. Ross – you have such good people who love you, me included, and want the best for you. As someone who has long sought answers to health issues, I can empathize with you. I know how it feels to be betrayed by people who you thought were friends. I know how debilitating it can feel when you have so much to do and can’t do it. I know how it feels to be low on “positive’. Cats are the best. Let them comfort you. Know you are in my prayers and thoughts. (I have been missing your posts, too!) Hang in there. Even at the worst times, there seems to be a speck of light at the end of the tunnel. 🙂

    • Ross on June 11, 2021 at 9:38 pm

      Thank you, Laurie!

      My natural optimism remains intact!

  17. Sandra Diane Lee on June 11, 2021 at 5:18 pm

    Rest.

    Take care.

    I suggest:

    Taking a sabbatical from the non-profit or leave. This would be if boundaries do/ or don’t work.

    Medication or any medication can cause side effects. Lethargy is a frequent complaint about blood thinners. Usually most pronounced with Coumadin, but less so with Xaralto.

    Be patient with yourself. You work very hard and do gargantuan amounts of work. You meet goals and may be reeling from combo of issues; pandemic social isolation, blood clot, stress, psychic pain with kitty acute care and suffering.

    Depression from social isolation is common right now.

    Cut back to a slower pace.

    Get lots of rest, reduce stresses in your life, eat well and meditate.

    Hope you feel better.

    • Ross on June 11, 2021 at 9:35 pm

      Thank you, Sandra.

      I am taking Xaralto, so what you wrote supports my suspicions.

      I am fine with this slowdown. My only concern is that it prove a short-term slowdown rather than permanent!

      • Sandra Diane Lee on June 12, 2021 at 5:29 pm

        Short-term slowdown should abate when Xaralto is discontinued.

        To help prevent future clot issues: please keep hydrated, wear compression stockings and alternate between sitting, standing with tasks. Anytime you can sit rather than stand in place, is a good alternative.

  18. Vicki F on June 11, 2021 at 7:39 pm

    Really, Ross I have to say that it is “about time”. You’ve been going so strong for so many years, that I’m sure your body and soul need a little down time. You’ve got some great followers here who, may or may not, give this type of advice professionally but they sure sound like they know what they’re talking about! I think I’ve also benefitted from some of these comments myself! Please don’t feel guilt or stress about this little sabbatical and first and foremost, take care of the health issues then come out swinging! All the best to you.

    • Ross on June 11, 2021 at 9:37 pm

      Thank you, Vicki!

      I feel no stress or guilt. It helps knowing the causes of what has been happening, and none of the causes are permanent.

      BIG hug!

  19. Nancy from New Yawk on June 12, 2021 at 9:03 am

    It’s wonderful to see the outpouring of support for you here! To know that there are so many of us cheering you on will do you good I hope! The pace of your work has always been amazing and staggering to me! I wondered at your energy and stamina as we are the same age and I appear to be a slacker by comparison. Fallow times come around, and even tanks have to stop for maintenance from time to time. Embrace some rest. Go on a picnic. Enjoy nature. Hug Limpy. Know that your loyal followers are here cheering in the background. It will all resume when the time is right. ((((Hugs❤️))))

  20. Karen Spencer on June 12, 2021 at 2:09 pm

    Hi dearest Ross.

    You are loved by so many, and you have created a such wonderful online community.

    I’m glad that you have identified the 3 baddies. Like you I am generally an energy-filled and achievement-oriented person, and I am also currently suffering from a bit of lethargy, lack of focus, and in my case a bit of depression, which is new for me.

    I have not identified my baddies, or maybe I don’t want to accept them…

    I hope the outpouring of love and good suggestions from your loving Ross- created community is healing and and helpful for you. As always, reading your post and the groups comments helps us all.

    I am sure you are still making something a little bit better every day.

    Put no pressure on yourself and take good care of yourself and Limpy. I hope your energy and focus are quickly restored.

    Big hug to you both!

  21. Robin Biddle on June 12, 2021 at 8:18 pm

    Hey Ross, one thing is the constant here …..this too shall pass…..your mantra…..this too shall pass….. It will and when you are residing in that glorious Cross House, surrounded by the kitties after taking a long wonderful shower and conversing with Cody and then all of us online……you can sigh and say It DID pass! You are getting closer all of the time and your taking care of yourself and seeing the love sent from all of these awesome fans WILL make this all a past memory. I look forward in time so much in seeing your ideas, your decorating skills and your wonderful creativity when it is able to happen. In the meantime, the Cross House and all of us who care about it and YOU will celebrate your continued improved health. Good times ahead! Hugs, and more hugs and downright good JUJU are being virtually sent your way to kick those three issues to the curb! Also…. I have a plaque….Illigitimi Noncarbarundum. aka “Don’t let the bastards wear you down”,,viewing it comes in handy for those times of nonprofit involvement angst. Been there, done that! Sigh…..

  22. Linda A. on June 12, 2021 at 9:36 pm

    Well, my man. I have read all of the outpouring of concern for you in this post and it makes one thing very clear.

    Man, we like you, dude!!!

    Keep your nose clean!

    Keep your chin up.

    Get well.

    And never forget how many, many people around the world are in your corner!

  23. Cody H on June 13, 2021 at 4:46 pm

    I cannot offer advice on the first two drains in your life, but as for the third issue…in every instance that it has come up in conversation between us, I’ve never heard you have anything *good* to say about your dealings with the board. Ever. I cannot recall even just one positive interaction you’ve relayed to me about your experiences with them.

    I have a very hard time walking away from things in my life that I WANT to work out, but that only drain me – sound familiar? Don’t think of the decision to walk away as giving up, rather, think of it as doing what’s better for your psyche.

    You’ve lived a very charmed life, no doubt, but this venture just doesn’t seem to be bringing any joy and positivity to your life. The best thing you could probably do for yourself is to cut your losses and walk away. Wash your hands of them and all their negativity. Your experience and knowledge are lost on them. You may be the best person for the job in the room, but you’re not the one that ultimately gets to MAKE the decisions, so more often than not you’re overruled. That’s no way to work and effect positive change.

    …and then you should take all that recovered mental bandwidth and double down on efforts to ready the carriage house for my arrival. October is swiftly approaching.

    • Ross on June 13, 2021 at 4:55 pm

      Cody, by being on the board, several accomplishments have brought me great joy.

      And there’s a very large project soon underway, initiated by me, which will be enormously satisfying.

  24. Cindy Belanger on June 13, 2021 at 10:00 pm

    I’m sorry your energy level is so low and you’re not feeling like yourself. Those damn medication side effects.
    I know Limpy has drained your energy somewhat, but has given you so much in return.
    As for the board, it sounds like you’re looking forward to the next project, then if things don’t improve after that, walk away. You’ve given a lot and need to take care of yourself now.
    This is your body’s way of telling you to slow down and take care of you. Hoping you’re feeling better very soon. Hang in there things will get better.

  25. Kim on June 14, 2021 at 11:53 am

    Ross, I am twenty years younger than you and do nowhere near the physical activity and I have never been more exhausted in my life than I have been these last few months. And I haven’t had a recent medical episode, either.

    This year has been so difficult in so many ways, how could any of us not be completely spent, emotionally and physically? Rest, take care of yourself! I am so sorry that you feel abused by your fellow board members. One thing I know is that there are a whole bunch of people out here on the internet who love you a lot and wish you nothing but joy.

  26. Carrie on June 14, 2021 at 3:45 pm

    I was wondering. I was down in Emporia in may and drove by. My question is whats going on with finishing the porch. Like is there an issue or things being made etc. Just curious.

    • Ross on June 14, 2021 at 7:45 pm

      Hi, Carrie!

      The main porch is a work in progress!

  27. Bonnie on June 14, 2021 at 7:03 pm

    Hi Ross,

    I toured Cross House about three years ago with my godparents and friend Becca while passing through my home town. I’ve had this urge lately… that I should check your blog.

    Sending you love. Non-profit boards are the worst.

    You are a lovely person. Keep your chin up.

    Bonnie

    • Ross on June 14, 2021 at 7:48 pm

      Thank you, Bonnie!

  28. Sharon @ Laurelhurstcraftsman on June 17, 2021 at 5:41 pm

    I suspect you also have some amount of burnout. You have done little else but work on this amazing house for many years. I hope you feel renewed energy soon.

  29. Joan Brooks on June 17, 2021 at 9:51 pm

    I understand in part. I’m a social worker and have battled depression for years. Then regenerate $500 to a much enjoyed blog site and never received an acknowledgement, let alone thank you. No good deed indeed.

    • Ross on June 17, 2021 at 10:39 pm

      Hi, Joan!

      I’m worried that you donated $500 to my GoFundMe and never received an acknowledgement or thank you. So, I just checked every donation and don’t see a $500 donation from you.

      Or was your donation to another blog?

      Ross

  30. Leigh on June 18, 2021 at 2:57 am

    *Sits 2 metres/6 feet from Ross*
    *Gives air hugs while sending love and light.*

  31. Karen L Grohs on July 9, 2021 at 8:15 pm

    I am sorry you are drained. I can’t tell you how much I’ve enjoyed reading your blog since my (late) discovery of it. I totally understand the reasons, and you deserve a break and a chance to recharge. I am so sorry about Limpy. Having lost our 19-and-a-half-year-old Marra, in March (and gone through a scare with Bill, necessitating four vet visits including a trip to the specialty vet), I understand how draining it all can be. All best.

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